If you are looking for a natural enhancer, a prescription medication without a prescription, or a magical potion for better erections, scat. You don't want to be here.
If you are looking for ways to understand your sexuality better and to have more pleasure in bed, then stick around and read, because you're about to learn five of my top pieces of advice to men who have performance anxiety that spoils their lovemaking.
- Sex is about more than your penis. Surprise! You have a whole, entire body to be explored. So many men become penis-centric that they forget that their necks, backs, tush, and even the arches of their feet have erogenous nerve endings. If you need more sexual attention from your partner, say so. It will give you a chance to relax and enjoy your lovemaking experience.
Sex is better when you stay in the moment. Don't worry about your next hot move. Don't bother thinking about what position is going to make your partner explode. Focus on what you are experiencing right here, right now.
- Don't rely on porn to help you get off. Look, porn is so much a part of our landscape that it's pretty much unavoidable. (Except if you're me. I don't look at porn. I don't need to.) The problem is that you kind of sort of forget what it's like to be with a partner. Then you get with her and it's freak out time. So don't get so into the porn that you can't perform sexually with a partner.
- If you can't get it up, don't despair. It happens to pretty much everyone, despite what your buddies may say. Learn to develop your manual and oral sex technique, let your partner know how much she turns you on, and try again when you aren't so tired, worried, etc.
- Don't let your mind get away from you. Haven't you ever noticed that the minute you have the thought "What if I lose my erection?" it disappears? Stop that. When you have a negative sexual thought, just let it drift away like a cloud and replace it with something more useful like, "Wow, sex just feels so awesome right now."
Sex is not a performance, it's an experience. If you eat a dish of ice cream, you don't worry about how you look or whether you are eating the ice cream correctly. You just get into it and enjoy. And that's the way it is with sex!
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